“Friends will be friends, when you’re through with life and all hope is lost. Hold out your hand, friends will be friends. Right till the end. ” – Queen
I couldn’t think of a better quote about friendship, than those words written by Queen’s bass player John Deacon, who along with three other misfits; Freddie Mercury, Roger Taylor and Brian May made up the band Queen. They had a special bond with one another that extends past Freddie Mercury’s death in 1991. They protected and lied for him, so he could keep making music and if that isn’t real friendship, than I don’t know what else is.
I have had close friends, best friends you could say too, some from when I was in at school. I am talking about that all consuming friendship where you spend every possible moment together. Where you spend hours on the phone to after school, because something desperate might of happened and it needs to be discussed. Someone who when your world falls apart they drop everything and rush straight too your side.
What makes a friend to me ? I think there has be a lot of trust and feeling comfortable with that person or people. I am a bubbly and talkative person, but under all that I find it hard to trust people. So to me trust is big on my list, you to also need to be able to laugh as well, and when I say laugh, I mean until you cry.
Another quality would be someone who is there not only for the good times, but those bad times as well. They should have your back and yet be brutally honest with you too. There is also that natural give and take, it should never be all one sided, I think we have all had one of those friendships in our life.
When it comes down to it friends are sometimes like family, but we get to chose them, unlike our family. I have been lucky to have found a best friend after years without one and I wonder why now ? I feel so happy and content to have found her and it has lifted my spirits to no end. And I thank whoever is out there who brought her into my life.
Friendships when you are young are often so much easier to keep, it comes down to do you want to play with me and off you go. I watch the students at school navigate the minefields of making friends, some get their hopes dashed and others flourish with the social interaction. It is all a learning curve, at times we step in help students with all the niceties;how to talk to somebody and how to solve the little quarrels that pop up with any relationship.
I love how kids can be total strangers to each other, for example in the park and yet play with one another, and when you ask them who that was they simply say “Oh just my friend.” The simple friendships of youth are often the purest form of friendship. Where there are no real worries and you simply want to spend time with each other.
I think it is important to us to have friends to simply spend time with each other, like what we had when we were young. Maybe it might not be pure as a child’s outlook, but it comes pretty close to it. And maybe when you think about it can it be as simple as a hug or watching the sun rise or set. The simple things are often the best for our soul.
Let me know your thoughts on the subject ? Do you have a best friend ? Or do you have a friendship with someone lasting since you were small ?
Ciao for now and just remember, friends will be friends.